I have been sexually active since 23, I'm 26. I probably had sex about 40 times. Most of these were casual relationships or one night stands and were performed after heavy drinking. I used a condom on ALL the encounters. I used to come after about 5-10 minutes, which I think is normal. But if I had been drinking heavily I could go on without achieving orgasm - I could last 40minutes or more. Now I have found someone I love and we had our first encounter a few days ago. I lasted 10sec. We did it on two other occasions and I lasted less than a minute each tme. This time I used no condom.

1. Am I coming early because there's no condom and its more sensitive.
2. Is the absence of alcohol the cause. Someone said alcohol makes you last
3. Am I just anxious? Lack of 'dutch courage' since I'm doing it sober for the first time?
4. What's my best chance. My ego, self esteem have dropped. Am I 'useless'
5. Women - if you love him but he isn't good in bed will you leave/cheat him? Help