...that mean the cancer has spread? My sister says her husband, age 52, is going to have to have his prostate taken out. So far he has put off setting up the operation for 4 months now. We heard that usually you get 'radioactive pellets' UNLESS the cancer has already spread. When she asks hubby about any of this he gets mad. He has a hectic work schedule, 16 hours days 7 days a week, and can't bring himself to take off for this as he'll probably never get his job back and has no other way to earn income.
Anyway, HIS explanation was that he is getting it out because 'then he is sure the cancer is gone', nothing to do with it being serious or spreading. In fact, he finally, after two months, told his kids he had it and painted such a 'rosy picture' that they haven't even come to visit him regularly, only one day for Xmas and one for Thanksgiving, yet they live just down the street. He has no time for them due to his work schedule. Will he be out of commission 3 weeks or 3 months, we've heard both from him. Heeeelp !!!!!!!

apparently the cancer is only in the prostate and they are going to remove it to keep the cancer from spreading--please dont be afraid to talk to doctor-my dad died of it
here is a link that may shed some light on the subject-easier then me explaining what i have learned

I did not have this. But my friend did. They remove the prostrate when it about to spread outside the prostrate. I would not worry to much. Just get him to go to the hospital and have it done sooner than later.

Oh my...another workaholic whom worries for family survival above his own...

Obviously, as history has proven, the longer he waits the chances of death become more prevalent...

Only a doctor can determine his destiny according to his own findings but he can be sure of this, there is no cure without treatment and it will grow worse sooner than he may think once being diagnosed...death IS the final outcome when avoiding the treatments or surgery suggested...

As he is a workaholic, he is also a hard driven person unable to be convinced so easily of his own mis-guided or careless ways and you can be sure that is why the kids steer clear of him. Arguing the issue does nothing, so why bother, right...?

It would be good to drop some medical literature in the house someplace where he would be sure to find and read...

As money seems to be his driven force to avoid treatment he must become aware that there are helpful organizations willing to subsidize his needs as result of cancer impairment and rehabilitation. Many can be found on the internet as well as thru local chapters of the Red Cross and similar institutions...

Meanwhile, the part of the family should be to be more supportive and compassionate to his situation and not make his emotional situation appear worse than it is ...

He really must abide to his doctors requests as the longer he waits will mean the longer out of work and this definitely conflicts with his existing theory, does it not...?

Good luck, you will need it...