I lost my mom the day before my 21st birthday 11 years ago. She died very unexpectadly of heart and lung failure. Yesterday was the anniversary of her death and it was hard on me.
The loss of a parent is hard and you never really get over it. I was close to my mother and I still sometimes cry because I miss her or am sad because she didn't live long enough to see my husband and my youngest two kids. I miss her on holidays and birthdays, I miss her on regular days when I am sad or lonely or lost and just want her to comfort me or give advice.
You will never forget your dad and you shouldn't. Its ok to miss him and mourn his loss. Try to remember him in a good way and concentrate more on his life with you than his death. Don't think of the room where he died as a sad place, but think of it as a place you can go to feel close to him and remember him.
My mom died in her bedroom watching TV. I used to go there (before my father moved) and talk to her like she was still there. It sounds crazy, but it helped. My cousins moved into that house and one of them asked for her room because she thought my mom's spirit would look out for her.
Try to be happy. Remember that your dad lives on through you. You and your children carry his blood, his DNA and his wisdom in the things he taught you that you can teach your kids someday. You and your family make him immortal.
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