Let's say you are having sex and as soon as you start good you are ejaculating within 60 secs.

This is either a medical or emotional condition. You need to know for sure before seeking treatment. For the madical part, some Drs will prescribe an anti-depressant, like paxil. It does help to an extent. Viagra and other drugs in the same category will also help. If it is emotional, the person need to seek qualified help from a proffesional.

I'd suggest you do a web search for instructions on 'male multiple orgasm'. You don't need to be multi-orgasmic, but they are pretty much the same instructions that you'd be given to deal with premature ejaculation. You can do the exercises by yourself or with a partner. At some point, practice with a partner will likely help but you can do as much as possible on your own.The basic idea of the exercises is as follows:- become _more_ aware of your arousal level. Don't just get carried away, be more aware 'I'm at 7 out of 10' right now, that kind of thing. That awareness will help you know when to ease off, when to go hard.- become used to longer stimulation without ejaculation as an immediate goal- practice techniques to drop your physical arousal level, specifically breathing, adjusting pace/stimulation, and _kegel_ exercises.- keep building up kegel muscles- put the awareness + skills together to keep your arousal where you want it.People may suggest distracting yourself, etc. That can buy you a little time, but is actually counterproductive to gaining real control. Real control takes time and effort, but virtually all men are _capable_ of achieving it. Find the exercises, and STICK WITH THEM. Its not going to be solved instantly, but there's no reason why 6 months from now you won't be able to hold off ejaculation at will.