...new girlfriend I am impotent I am 58, and she is 52. We started kissing and cuddling last night. I had to back off, because I was afraid it would get to a point that my impotence would be obvious. Do women her age care if a man is impotent? My sex drive was high and I did it a lot when I was younger. I thought women's sex drives would taper off when they get older. But now I am finding, they are as strong as ever, and it is me that has tapered off. Do women enjoy receiving oral sex? I never did it when I was younger, but am now learning. Will most women find that a man serving her orally is an adequate substitute for the real thing. I wish I would have learned to do it when I was younger, but I am learning now. When I tell her I am impotent, should I also tell her I am willing to satisfy her orally? Will that make a difference in her decision whether or not to stay with me?